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The Santa delusion

I finally started to catch up on reading this week, and turned to the Christmas edition of New Scientist which has this interesting article: The Santa delusion, is it harmless fantasy or cruel deception.  It contains a survey of 1000 adults asking when they stopped believing in Santa.  Incredibly a third say at ten or over and 9% pulled the wool from their eyes before they passed the age of five.  Now I tried a quick survey of my own family, and despite greater proximity in time than adults neither of my children have any idea when they lost their belief (not do I for that matter), so I really don't believe the results.  When children learn things and who from is of course an interesting topic.  Facing up to the Birds and Bees talk to my son many moons ago, I was told he already knew everything as his elder sister had sat him down and with two spoons explained the whole process; I still don't know how and I don't want to know come to think of it.  But we bought new spoons ....

The thing which stood out for me in the article however was the incredible reported statement from one John Kremer, reader in psychology at Queen's University, Belfast quoting and building on work by American psychologist George Homans who argued that all social relationships are based on reciprocity and the balancing of rewards and costs.  In the context of Santa this leads Kremer into absurdity.

This net-reward theory, for Kremer is starkly revealed at Christmas.  He argues that each christmas gift has to be matched in value, or we risk embarrassment or worse.  Well OK, but now he proceeds:  Children find themselves in this intricate web of exchange without the necessary social skills, nor indeed the resources, to become active participants.  Santa now becomes the perfect answer to this problem: because Santa gives presents to children but expects nothing in return, he protects them from the minefield of social exchange known as Christmas.  This allows Children to learn the ropes of gift giving, without having to play an active role.  For Kremer the Santa myth is a unique secular product of western capitalism and provides an introduction to materialism.

This is an example of assuming homo economicus over homo naturalis; assuming that everything has a rational, and economic cause or reason; interpreting everything as a power relationship or game.  There is a whole body of social science which cannot break out of this particular model.  It seems to be linked into both the behaviorist and information processing models that have dominated organisation theory over the past few decades.  Its a pity really because Cognitive Science has moved on.  Post natal plasticity of the human brain, means that for children a significant amount of the cognitive processes are carried out by parents and peer groups.  There is no particular reason for the patterns laid down by those processes to require economic reciprocation.  The Santa myth has many complex origins and is just one of panoply of myth structures that we weave for our children.  The Sandman, the tooth fairy and many others provide a rich and imaginary universe in which we and our children can delight.  Gifting is a part of what we are, but gifting does not require reciprocation of value per se.

It is a nonsense logically as well.  All those presents under the Christmas tree have labels on that such as from Mummy and Daddy or from Aunty Ruth or whatever.  As they are opened records are maintained so the thanks you letters can be produced.  All of this, while the Santa story is told and believed but as a myth not as a literal entity.  Children have much fluidity here and are more than capable of handing the confusions and complexities, even the contradictions.  It's a part of growing up.  Removing ambiguity would not help the children, anymore that pseudo economic models.

Comments (3)

Wayne Zandbergen:

Dave,
Great post! I think the idea that a specific time or "disbelief" is assignable is absurd. My memory is vague but I know it wasn't an instant of "Santa is Dead" but something much more progressive, lingering doubts combined with wishes of Santa's existence, etc. Hence the measurement of something as fluid as belief or not, as if it were a binary decision, seems bizarre.

And I also agree 100% with you rejection of all the crap descended from Foucault's "Power is Everything" model of social relations. It may have provided a basis for changing some worn out previous theories, but it becomes a thread-worn tautology and it is still being applied in many areas. Maybe it is because it provides a simple meta-narrative framework that allows some folks to offer simple explanations for things that are too complex for simple explanations?

Wayne

Brian Sherwood Jones:

Yes, great post.
Most work situations are full of ritual and myth - frequently the basis of Dilbert. 'Ritual' is one of the key aspects of product design.
I don't remember when I found out he wasn't real but do remember a time when I 'knew' and my younger siblings didn't. The point that parents provide children with some of the mental resources they need, and that this web is some sort of minimum viable system sounds obvious once said, but I don't remember it being said like that.

This is an interesting one!

When our children were born, we had a discussion about the whole Santa thing. We decided not to foster the Santa myth with them, for two reasons:

The first is that we had made the decision never knowingly to lie to our children. We wanted them to know that they could depend on us, in the midst of a world full of spin, deceit and subterfuge, to tell them (what we believed to be) the truth.

Secondly, because we are Christian believers, we wanted our children to see Christmas as a celebration of the birth of the Christ child (hence the name: Christmas). We felt that plaiting the truth (and is is historically recorded truth, whether you impute any deity to the child or not) in together with a fictitious character was unwise. Once they realise you have "lied" to them about Santa, would they not dismiss the whole story as being part and parcel of the same myth?

I share this only to present an alternative perspective, not as an attempt to persuade other people to abandon whatever approach they have chosen to adopt with their own families.

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